四个毕业生

I was really gonna be something by the age of 23.
Honey, all you have to be by the age of 23 is yourself.
I don't know who that is anymore.
Well, I do. And we all love her. I love her. She breaks my heart again and again, but…, but I love her.

Well, I'm sorry, Lelaina, but you can't navigate me. I might do mean things, and I might hurt you, and I might run away without your permission, and you might hate me forever. And I know that scares the shit out of you, because I'm the only real thing that you have.


四年前看这部还什么都不懂
今晚重看，从Ethan、Winona他们上天台喝酒的录像带开始就知道这是我的十佳
一切都太相似 感同身受的情感体验谁都夺不走
多想再拥有一个能在身边告诉我all you have to be is yourself的人

     一部关于友情及爱情的故事，大学毕业后，不知次数的面试，但总是没有机会，生活是如此的艰难；但是虽艰难却不无助，有那么好的三个朋友始终在身边，又是多么幸福的事情！同时，这种矜持的爱情方式，很是能被打动！

     另外，非常喜欢里面的薇诺娜 瑞德，太美了！

It’s about the era when Ethan Hawke was still young and dandy, just like the one who was in the Before Sunrise & Before Sunset, when Winona Ryder was the pretty girl with a vibrant personality that I was fond of in my middle high school. How time flies! I have to quote this old saying even though it is definitely a cliché, like time waits no man, and some kinds of this, balabalabala.

I didn’t excerpt some sentence form this movie as my title. You’ve never been considerate about your future, my aunt said, you’re that kind of child who seems never grow up and who never consider seriously about anything, let alone your own future. The reason that this kind of conversation happened between my aunt and me other than my parents is that I really find communicating with them thoughtfully is a difficulty now. Sometimes I wondered what I lived for in my life but to find no answer, I got lost since I entered university. It’s unbelievable that I got my future under the control of my parents since most of my choices I made were decided by my parents or my whole family, such as which high school I would go, whether I should choose arts or science as my orientation in high school, which university and major I would aim to, and so on. Even I thought it was more than unbelievable, but ridiculous. How could I let my own life manipulated by them? That’s the cause who I am today, and the situation I get now.

Like Lelaina confided to the professional psychic in the call, It’s just that nothing is going down according to plan. This sentence could vividly figure out my life now, yep, my life is a mess, during the past more than twenty years, I strived to be some kind of extraordinary A students as my parents expected. They said we thought you should take biology and medics as your major ,they said we decided to send you to USA to fulfill your further study and get a PHD, they said we wanted you to leave your boyfriend because we didn’t like Japanese, they said we needed you to be focused on you scientific research and spent less time on sports and entertainment. So, I followed their decisions and quit my own interests and favorites. I used to blame them whenever I felt so pale about my life, full of desperation. Actually I have this planet of regret sitting on my shoulders that I didn’t fight and said no.

Seeking help from a professional psychic, I don’t know what’s other people’s opinions about this point of view, in my opinion it’s a healthy way to resolve personal problems, since there is no one actually can do some help in the desperation and confusion about myself and how can I decide who can be trusted? Maybe this angle is a little more, but that’s my true feelings.

Lelaina is a lucky one in this movie in that she finally climbed over the hill after graduation. The courage she got to face her career and true love needs great determination. All the obstacles in our life are set to catalyze us to be mature.

After having sex with Troy, Lelaina didn’t escape herself from that relationship, Vickie said, sex is the quickest way to ruin a friendship, I was upset when Troy said he was panic, it’s amazing to hear him said that:

Look, you are the only woman that I could ever commit myself to. I don’t want to lose you, I’ve never been in an experience like this before. I’ve never had sex with somebody that I loved before. But you can’t navigate me, Lelaina. I might do mean things, and I might hurt you, and I might run away without your permission, and you might hate me forever. And I know that that scares the shit out of you, because I’m the only real thing that you have.

After these words, Troy went on to the stage, This one’s for you, Lainie, he sung a song for her. But the estrangement between them let Lainie leave the bar. True love is always hard to get, nice couples need a period to overcome to reach the final happy destination. After all the misunderstandings clearing up, the lovers made the right choice to get together. They hugged and kissed in the front door of Lelaina’s house. Yeah, I have to say, I really like those fucking happy endings.

Reality Bites is a essential course each of us should endure when we face graduation, and face the confusion this society inflict us, that’s not an option. Until when we survive through these ups and downs we could find ourselves to be stronger person. The faith we lost in a moment, it will be seized finally. Be a strong person.

Here are some funny parts I caught in the movie:
Troy was fired because of stealing Snikers Bar, Snikers is my favorite too.
Vickie waked up the next morning after her guy left and noted the number and the name of that sex partner. Such a **** life style.
When these four guys paid in the shopping market counter, the rock music just started at that moment, then Lelaina and Vickie began to dance with the bright rhythm, the scenery is so impression that I could feel the infinite energy of youth in those four.

These are clips in Lelaina’s MV
I am not under any orders to make the world a better place.-----Troy
And you wonder why we never got involved.----Lelaina
I don’t want to get married because I see how my parents are.-----Vickie
My parents got divorced, when I was fourteen/five years old.------L/T
My mother actually goes to the bathroom with the door open.------V
I swore to myself I ‘d never get married.-------L
I want passion.
Would you two just do it and get it over with? I’m starving.------V
But the question remains, how can we repair all the damage we inherited? The answer is simple, the answer is… the-the-the answer is… I don’t know. ------L (Pizza. Pizza. Pizza. Ha ha, )

The first time I watched this movie was in one English class taught by a teacher I didn’t adore, after the movie, she asked the whole class one funny but realistic question, If you’re Lelaina in this movie, who will you choose,Michael or Troy? Anyone who decide to choose Michael please raise your hand. I can still remember only one girl raised her hand. Ms. ** just slightly smiled with no comments on our actions. Guess my choice on this question?

p.s. I like the music at the end of this movie, so touching.

stay (i missed you)
-----　lisa loeb reality bites

　　You say I only hear what I want to
　　And you say I talk so all the time-so
　　
　　And I thought what I felt was simple
　　And I thought that I don't belong
　　And now that I am leaving
　　Now I know that I did something wrong cause I missed you
　　Yeah, I missed you
　　
　　And you say I only hear what I want to
　　I don't listen hard
　　I don't pay attention to the distance that you're running or to
　　Anyone, anywhere
　　I don't understand if you really care
　　I'm only hearing negative, no no no - bad
　　
　　So I turned the radio on I turned the radio up
　　And this woman was singing my song
　　The lover's in love and the other's run away
　　The lover is crying cause the other won't stay
　　And some of us hover when we weep for the other who was dying
　　Since the day they were born well
　　Well this is not that
　　I think that I'm throwing but I'm thrown
　　
　　And I thought I'd live forever but now I'm not so sure
　　You try to tell me that I'm clever but that won't take me anyhow
　　Or anywhere with you
　　
　　And you said that I was naive
　　And I thought that I was strong
　　I thought "hey I can leave, I can leave"
　　But now I know that I was wrong cause I missed you
　　Yeah I missed you
　　
　　You said "you caught me cause you want me
　　And one day I'll let you go"
　　You try to give away a keeper or keep me cause you know
　　You're just too scared to lose
　　
　　And you say, "stay"
　　
　　You say I only hear what I want to