我们的故事2000

虽然很少看见对此的推荐，但是在无意间看到此片的时候，我还是流泪了。里边有很多的对话值得深思，在无意之间道出了爱情和家庭的真谛，可能它并不浪漫，但却非常的真实！

一部让人温暖的家庭伦理剧，尽管故事始终都围绕主人公苦心经营15年的婚姻即将分崩离析的痛苦抉择。
故事的情节简单却深刻，主人公在无数次争吵和沉默中忍受和挽救着他们第二个七年的积累。却在准备好分手的时刻才发现与其痛苦的决定分手的理由和主动权，放弃的分离，不如尝试在一起。
在分开之初免不了出现一个全新的人，这个人即使是只相识3分钟也会觉得他们拥有对你更为细致的关心和呵护。他们牵手、拥抱、接吻、互诉衷肠，却不愿意再与那个他/她有任何沟通，甚至两眼的对视。渐渐的，你会发现，接吻慢慢从热爱变成“喜欢”，甚至是百年不遇的奢侈，原来你需要的只是倾诉，而所倾诉的事情也无非是你和那个他/她的所有委屈、无奈。但是，蔓延在他们之间的却是无尽的争吵，鸡毛蒜皮，因为“当习惯争吵变成唯一的沟通方式，不吵的时候已经无法相处。”于是，这个毫无根基的所谓外遇总是打败苦心经营的婚姻。
影片中的女主人公像接受采访一般，对着镜头将他们的15年娓娓道来，让每一个话题、每一个人物、每一次争吵、和好、每一个孩子的诞生与成长在她的讲述中慢慢铺陈，观众随之细细体会婚姻中的酸甜苦辣，也渐渐了解婚姻缘何用“经营”一词方可贴切形容。正如两个人躺在床上时，实际是有6个人，除了自己还有自己的父母这个浅显却被无数人难以逾越又左右人生的真理。

布鲁斯威利斯难得的温情片，和动作片一样触动内心，即使故事中的情节专为围城中的人设计，却一样能够让我得到共鸣。幸好影片的结局让两个人突破重围，破镜重圆，坚持了他们的坚持，否则我们何来勇气和我们的父母一样，义无反顾的踏入围城。

这不能算是一部爱情电影，而更像一部家庭电影。一对处于离婚边缘的夫妻，在要向孩子最终坦白之前，回心转意。说实话，在看时，我并不期望会有这样的结局，但我又知道，这是这类片子的一般形式。婚姻是恋爱的坟墓？我不懂。但我能接受影片中的另一个对婚姻的阐述：婚姻不是两个人之间的关系，而是六个人。除了夫妻之间，还有他们的父母。因为我们都是自己父母的继承与延续。“七年之痒”应该是每对夫妻都要经理的过程。最浪漫的，或许真的就是——和你一起慢慢变老。

大二的时候，某堂课，老师安排我们看的这部电影，我印象很深，女主最后泪流满面地说出那番话的时候我也泪流满面。十年过去了，我的状态跟那时无异，心境也跟那时无异。在PPS上点开了这部电影（当然我事先并不知道就是那部电影），坐在阶梯教室里的那种感觉又回来了，真想念校园。
之前我说，很多人会说经历了某些后懂得了某些，为什么我不经历也懂得。这就是为什么。

　Katie:That's not why I'm saying Chow Funs. Funs, I'm saying Chow Funs because we're an us.
There's a history here, and histories don't happen overnight. In Mesopotamia or Ancient Troy there are cities built on top of other cities, but I don't want another city, I like this city.
I know what kind of mood your in when you wake up by which eyebrow is higher, and you know I'm a little quiet in the morning and compensate accordingly, that's a dance you perfect over time. And it's hard, it's much harder than I thought it would be, but there's more good than bad and you don't just give up!
And it's not for the sake of the children, but God they're great kids aren't they? And we made them, I mean think about that! It's like there were no people there, and then there were people and they grew, and an an an I won't be able to say to some stranger Josh has your hands or remember how Erin threw up at the Lincoln Memorial And I'll try to relax, let's face it, anybody is going to have traits that get on your nerves, I mean, why shouldn't it be your annoying traits, and I know I'm no day at the beach, but I do have a good sense of direction so I can at least find the beach, which isn't a weakness of yours, it's a strength of mine.
And God your a good friend and good friends are hard to find. Charlotte said that in Charlottes Web and I love how you read that to Erin and you take on the voice of Wilber the Pig with such dedication even when your bone tired. That speaks volumes about character! And ultimately, isn't that what it comes down too? What a person is made of? That girl in the pin helmet is still here 'bee boo bee boo' I didn't even know she existed until you and I'm afraid if you leave I may never see her again, even though I said at times you beat her out of me, isn't that the paradox? Haven't we hit the essential paradox? Give and take, push and pull, the yen the yang.
The best of times, the worst of times!I think Dickens said it best, 'He could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean', but, doesn't really apply here does it?

 What I'm trying to say is, I'm saying Chow Funs because, I love you.

Katie:That's not why I'm saying Chow Funs. Funs, I'm saying Chow Funs because we're an us. There's a history here, and histories don't happen overnight. In Mesopotamia or Ancient Troy there are cities built on top of other cities, but I don't want another city, I like this city. I know what kind of mood your in when you wake up by which eyebrow is higher, and you know I'm a little quiet in the morning and compensate accordingly, that's a dance you perfect over time. And it's hard, it's much harder than I thought it would be, but there's more good than bad and you don't just give up! And it's not for the sake of the children, but God they're great kids aren't they? And we made them, I mean think about that! It's like there were no people there, and then there were people and they grew, and an an an I won't be able to say to some stranger Josh has your hands or remember how Erin threw up at the Lincoln Memorial And I'll try to relax, let's face it, anybody is going to have traits that get on your nerves, I mean, why shouldn't it be your annoying traits, and I know I'm no day at the beach, but I do have a good sense of direction so I can at least find the beach, which isn't a weakness of yours, it's a strength of mine. And God your a good friend and good friends are hard to find. Charlotte said that in Charlottes Web and I love how you read that to Erin and you take on the voice of Wilber the Pig with such dedication even when your bone tired. That speaks volumes about character! And ultimately, isn't that what it comes down too? What a person is made of? That girl in the pin helmet is still here 'bee boo bee boo' I didn't even know she existed until you and I'm afraid if you leave I may never see her again, even though I said at times you beat her out of me, isn't that the paradox? Haven't we hit the essential paradox? Give and take, push and pull, the yen the yang. The best of times, the worst of times!I think Dickens said it best, 'He could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean', but, doesn't really apply here does it? What I'm trying to say is, I'm saying Chow Funs because, I love you.

今天在多少有点感觉低迷的时候,看到这部温情，温馨和不乏真实的电影，于是被吸引。

其实我刚开始看得时候，男主人公刚刚从家里搬了出去。然后经历了一次和太太不成功的复合晚餐。两个人都感觉不大好。都割舍不下过去的婚姻和感情，又都还不能推动他们的共同体良性发展下去。

呵呵。。。

然后看到了片中的女主人公，如何在表达自己的需要方面，遇到了麻烦，又如何多少再焦虑，忧虑中度过。。。

最后，奇迹出现了，女主人公的状态回来了，在儿女面前，忽然有了感悟和领悟，不再陷于焦虑不安之中，也不再带着强烈的“受害者心态“面对自己过去选中的男人了。

于是爱情，幸福，都回来。

They says, "and they live mostly happily ever after". I hope so...

They also know, there are high / low....times...

seems they decided they will train themselves move through these high / lows and live mostly happily ever after...

是的。。。决心。。。live mostly happily ever after...虽然结尾个人认为多少还是太“艺术化“化了，但我喜欢结尾的这句话。

可爱的人们回来了。更多的美好的事情在他们的生活中展开了。。。这。。不是很重要吗。

       在Eric Clapton的反复吟唱中，Bruce对着镜头说，我觉得最浪漫的爱情故事就是，两人偶遇，坠入爱河，然后五六十年后，其中一个撒手人寰，没过几天另一个也告别人世，因为无法忍受失去对方独活。其实这也是我认为最浪漫的爱情故事。两个相爱的人，执子之手与子偕老。只是，中间那五六十年的光阴，那琐碎的磨人的生活的真相，不可能像小说或童话一笔点过，它要我们分分秒秒实实在在去感受。那其中有love也有hate，有欢乐也难免争吵，而我们都需扮演好自己的角色，全情投入。
    
    故事很简单。曾经相知相爱的两人，度过15年的婚姻生活，育有一双儿女，在孩子面前维持温馨和睦的假象，实际上却倍感疲惫倦怠。当节节升级的争吵由偶尔爆发变成家常便饭，当两人独处时只剩沉默，直视前方无聊的电视节目，目光从不相交，当两人之间除了对孩子的爱已找不出任何共同点，对于这段看来无路可走的婚姻，两人都已力不从心，于是分居，甚而协议离婚。即使PPS抽风得单词几乎是一个个蹦出来，从两人商定离婚起，我几乎一路哭到尾。我怕，同样的情形会发生在你我之间。

    虽然不在同一张床上，两人都在想着对方，回忆过去的甜蜜时光；当她说It's over，他看不到关门后她崩溃的泪水；他和她，思及婚姻现况，抱着孩子先后痛哭出声。当他敞开心扉说出自己的high就是与她在一起的此刻，而low就是与她分别的every minutes of the past two weeks，她不禁动容，只是两个人的和谐几分钟后就演变成六个人的争吵。当他在饭店里大吵大闹情绪失控，在店外想起过往种种潸然泪下，鼓起勇气让朋友Take me to Katie's，对她坦承"My high is about you. Tonight I saw myself through your eyes, and I am sorry!"给彼此最后一个机会，却看到屋中另外一个男人，满腔热情立马被浇熄，转身绝然离去，却看不到她眼中挥之不去的浓浓失望。他租的新居冰箱里备齐她喜欢的所有种类饮料。他戴上手表，因为她希望他准时。明明还余情未了，却谁都不敢跨出主动的一步，或许，两人都在努力，却总是时机不对。假如，我是说假如，我们之间真的到了这一步，请你一定主动说，This is ridiculous, we love each other, all couples go through this, let's give it another try.

       夫妻俩始终都是有差异的，先不论男女性别本质导致的思维差异，家庭背景、生长环境、教育方式都会导致价值观的差异和性格上的不协调。片中的Ben是个作家，生性自由散漫，就像拿着画笔的Harold，随意不羁，casual & spontaneous，而Katie却非常有计划性，生活井井有条，凡事依照日程，punctual & ordered。与我们何其相似，只是我是女版的Ben，而你是男版的Katie。可是，两个人既然在一起，就要求同存异。虽然有差异，谁缺了谁也不行。就像Ben的车总需要Katie为他加清洁液，需要Katie为他导航。

    当那个明显配角的牙科医生出现，你问我，你不会在我们出现问题时走近另一个人吧？我拒绝回答这么ridiculous的question。你说我知道这是一个插曲，女主角是个好妻子，但人都有脆弱和崩溃的时候。其实在漫长的围城岁月中，在磨人的生活中，我们都难免偶尔wonder, Is this who I really am or is this who I am with this person? Maybe there's another version of my life, of myself, a happier one. 但我知道，this version of me only exsits until I met you. After all, everybody gonna have traits and get on your nerves, why shouldn't it be your annoying traits?

       最后一段催人泪下的表白，我看到豆瓣上有quotes，但我等你听译，我希望你用心去听，这样你才会记得。
    Life isn't clear-cut, life is gray. The whole notion of staying together and living happily ever after, all illusions. The hard time that bring us together, nobody said it was gonna be easy. It's harder, it's much harder than I thought it would be. But there is more good than bad and you don't just give up, because we are an "US". There's a history here, histories don't happen over night, 你了解我的喜怒哀乐，我对你的脾性了如指掌，That's a dance we perfect over time.

Remember, I'm nothing without you. Let's live MOSTLY happily ever after. I hope so, I do…